“Be fair with others, but keep after them until they’re fair with you.”
– Alan Alda (1936- )
Have you heard of The Golden Rule? Of course you have. You’re a socially aware, up-to-date human being, who loves Norman Rockwell. If however, you are none of those, let me get you up to speed:
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
Even if you haven’t heard of this as “The Golden Rule,” you’ve likely heard variations of it. Treat people how you want to be treated. Be nice. In essence, don’t be an asshole.
However, have you heard of The Platinum Rule?
“Treat others in the way they like to be treated.”
In essence, Don’t Be An Asshole version 2.0.
The Platinum Rule is really the maxim that should be taught to us as kids. What if Little Jimmy actually likes being pushed around and pissed on on daily basis? Is it okay for him to run around enacting this golden ritual on other kids? Everyone has their own special brand of weirdness and while we often find others with compatible weirdness, no two weirdnesses are exactly alike. I mean, how many times have two people stripped and jumped into bed only to find out that one’s only into some Fifty Shades shit and the other’s only into furry shit?
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but
whips and chains dogs and cats excite me.
But I’m digressing.
Compromise. Sympathize. Empathize. Wear the leather bustier one night and the fox costume the next night. Don’t assume everyone’s into the same kinks as you are. Don’t assume you’re the be-all end-all of what’s in and out. Most likely, you don’t even know what day of the week it is [Hint: It ends in “y”]. Communicate and just remember to not be an asshole, capisce?
But also remember not to be a pansy. Make sure others exercise The Platinum Rule with you in return. (Still, try not to be an asshole about it, though.)